One of the things that was hardest for me to come to terms with when my marriage ended was the loss of family holidays and traditions... all those years of growing up with mom and dad and family and special routines... it felt like my children weren't going to get that... it would be different every other year... there would be no consistency for them.
It took a few years, but I realized a few things.
1. That heartbreak
was mine, not theirs. They were too young to remember their dad and I
together, so this was their normal. It hurt ME that their childhood
Christmases wouldn't be like mine, but they didn't know the difference!
2. They would make
their own traditions and they have. Without realizing the significance
of what they've done, my children have their own rituals that they
demand regardless of where they are on Christmas...Things like the Elves
leaving pajamas on their pillow on Christmas Eve, getting 3 presents
from Santa and making Monkey Bread Boy Howdy, don't think they'll let either their dad or I forget!
*****
We started eating Monkey
Bread on Christmas morning when we first got married. We'd been given a
copy of the recipe from one of my former sisters-in law after hearing
one of the nieces go on about it and thinking that is sounded good. It turned into an
annual Christmas morning tradition.
When the kids were
born, we continued making it. That first year, when we had just split, I
made it because I was determined to not to lose all of the things we'd
intended to be traditions just because we weren't together. He must
have made it for them too, when they were with him, because one year, I
tried to do something different. I tried to make an egg casserole and
cinnamon rolls and the kids freaked as I assembled everything the day before! "Where they Monkey Bread?" they
asked. I ended up sending my dad out to get the ingredients while we
headed to my cousins' after church on Christmas Eve.
On
the years they spend Christmas with their father one of them
undoubtedly asks on the phone in the says leading up to their visit if
he's gotten the 'stuff to make the Monkey Bread?"
*****
I can relax. Maybe their childhood didn't turn out like I thought it would... maybe it's not like mine ~ which, while traditional and good, had it's own warts *winks*~ but
they have done their own thing, without a conscious thought. As the
only living reminders of a union and family unit that no longer exists,
they have made their own little unit... one that is just for them and
comes with it's own traditions.
I couldn't be more proud and I probably love them even harder for it!
I hope your holiday is filled with love, laughter, and family traditions.
Monkey Bread
4 pkgs Original Pillbury Biscuits (in the blue four-pack)
1 1/2 cup sugar
1 1/2 sticks butter
4 T cinnamon
nuts (optional)
Mix 3/4 cup sugar
with 2 T cinnamon in a bowl. Take 2 cans of biscuits and cut into
quarters. Roll them in sugar mixture and stack in a Bundt pan. Melt
3/4 sticks butter, mix with leftover sugar mixture in bowl and pour over
the biscuits. Repeat with remaining sugar, cinnamon, biscuits and
butter. Bake at 375* for 30 minutes. When done turn onto a plate and
allow butter to drip down.
I've tried to make
this less sinful by cutting some of the butter and sugar. Don't...it's a
once a year thing... just make it as is and enjoy!
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Kids are more resilient than you would ever imagine. My parents were beyond retarded and decided to tell me they were getting divorced the day before Christmas when I was in middle school. How is that for a new Christmas memory?! But Christmas is still one of my favorite times of the year and I always look forward to it even after that.
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Oh my! That's interesting timing! It's turned out to be a blessing that my children were so small, there was no announcement... it just sort of happened.
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I've always wanted to make monkey bread!
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